Avoid This Person. You know why you landed here.

You probably found this because something felt off and you started searching.

Good. Trust that feeling.

She's incredible at first. You already know that. That's why you're confused.

She's wounded in a way that makes you want to protect her. She's been through things. 

She'll tell you about them - the family stuff, the exes who hurt her, the people who didn't understand her.

You're here because the universe conspired to give you this truth. 

You'll feel chosen. Special. Like you're the one who finally sees her.

First comes the silence, the tears, the performances. But eventually, when she feels cornered, when you hold a boundary, when you stop playing along - she will hit you.

And then she'll cry.

Then you'll be shocked, at the gaslighting, the DARVO. She'll inflict pain, and then want you to clean up the mess.

She will commit violence.

And THEY will say it was your fault.

If you're a man reading this, you already know what happens next: nothing. No one cares. You have no shelter to go to. No hotline that takes you seriously. No friend group that knows how to help.

You just carry it.

And she tells her therapist she's the one being abused.

The victim.

She's always the victim. Always.

Her family. Her exes. Her friends. Her coworkers. You.

Everyone eventually becomes someone who hurt her.

You will too. No matter what you do.

Even when she's the one throwing punches.

What she'll never do:

She'll never say "I'm sorry" and mean it.

She'll never take accountability for anything real.

She'll never ask what she did wrong.

She'll never fight for you - only against you.

She'll never admit she put her hands on you

What you need to understand:

She's not choosing to be this way.

She's broken in a place she can't see.

She learned to survive by being the victim, and she can't stop. It's not a strategy anymore. It's who she is.

But that doesn't make the bruises any less real.

That doesn't mean you have to stay.

Even if you have the evidence. They don't care.

But one day, the truth will come out.